How To Deal With Loss

There are two types of loss: (1) loss of something we need such as unemployment or home destroyed by fire; and (2) loss of persons close to us through distance or death.

All of us are victims of loss in one way or the other. But our reactions may be different. Here are the five stages.

Panic and Shock. Often times, sudden death or major loss of someone can lead to shock and panic. When a person is shock she doesn't know what to do. Sometimes other begin to question God. Uncontrolled reactions occur when one begins to panic. I think one need to have a positive outlook in life and a calm spirit. Only this can be attained through complete trust in God.

Denial. This stage can cause more emotional stress rather than cure. Ignoring ones present crisis and acting as if nothing happens doesn't bring healing but only prolongs pain. On the other hand, accepting the loss no matter how painful it is, aids faster recovery.

Anger and Blaming. On this stage, the person expresses his hurt through anger and blaming. Don't make any major decision out of anger because it can lead to wrong choices that you will regret the rest of your life. It's okay to get angry because it releases your pains but uncontrolled anger is dangerous. Learn to forgive. You can only do this if you see those who sins against you how God treat you when you sin against Him.

Depression. Depression is a stage of giving up. One losses hope and passion in life. It is in this stage that suicides are committed. A depressed person needs medication, support and love. You can avoid this stage if you have faith in God, and begin facing the future with hope and confidence knowing there is Someone who walks with you all the way. That Someone is God.

Read my other blog on Male depression - http://hislove-raulen.blogspot.com/2010/02/male-depression-revealed.html

Resolution. Accepting your loss will lead you to start a new life and start all over again. Those who completely trusting God even in major loss are good at making resolution. A power from God will be available to you.

Losing someone dear to you or losing a job when you are the only bread winner is truly a major crisis. You can either be angry and start blaming or maybe deny your present situation and keep hunted by the fact, worst of all, allowing depression to come in and losing your hope to live.

If you have God in your life, you can choose to live a positive and peaceful life. Yes the pain will be there but God's power will ease giving you peace, hope and a bright future. Forgiving and accepting are the first steps to healing. Above all come to Jesus your Best Friend. He will walk with you all the way. He will always be there. He will listen to you anytime just talk to Him in prayer.