Male Depression Revealed

Male depression is widespread but too often it is misunderstood. Every men should now about this topic, otherwise their relationship with others will be compromised most especially with their own family. Don't let depression jeopardized your future and the future of your loved ones.

For centuries, depression is always associated with women. Many think that because men are stronger than women when it comes to controlling emotions, the former have little chances of undergoing depression. The truth is, depressed men often acts differently from what women do when they are depressed. Because of this, many deeply depressed men go untreated.


How to Recognize Male Depression

Women can be easily diagnosed when depressed by simply giving attention to their feelings. Men are better diagnosed when taking heed to their behavior. To put it simply, women feel their depression; men act it out! Most often, women feel sad and make themselves busy by helping others and expressing their feelings to their friends to relieve their depression.

On the contrary, men most likely when depressed act through frustration and anger. They become irritable and moody. They tend to withdraw.

Here is a perfect example how men experience depression. Jason is a successful insurance broker in the past. But because of the present bad economy, he failed to reach the sales goal the company sets for him. He was personally called to the office of his superior for a serious talk about his performance. He was reprimanded and was given a warning to loss his job if he doesn't improve. Added to that, he will no longer receive his anticipated year-end bonus which he already set to be used for their family vacation trip. He went home, appearing that nothing happens without a tear, a sad look or grieving as most women will certainly do in that situation. Arriving at home, he barges at the front door, put his briefcase across the floor, scream on the kids who make so much noise while he watch his favorite TV program. The day ends and Jason never told his problem to his wife. His irritability and alienation take weeks before he comes out from his "cave."

Many wives complain that their husbands become irritable, easily angered, and refuses to talk. And when they react, they become over sensitive to certain minor problems and irritations such as unpleasant news, kids noise or foods serve during meal time. Some wives were abused. Most often, the underlying cause of this actions is depression. We need to examine deeper the root of their hostility and anger.


How Men Hide Depression

Depression can be overt or covert in nature. Negativity, traditional sadness, lethargy and mood changes are the symptoms. For men, depression is more covert. We all raise our son to be strong. It's not a surprise then, that when depression strikes, naturally men acts on a behavioral level. Distracting behaviors or numbing preoccupations of some kind hide male depression most often.


Common Male Behaviors When Depressed

Here are the most four common form of male behavior when depressed.

Anger, rage, and pent-up resentment. These are the dark sides of depression. These give pain to the immediate family members of the depressed person. I believe that the real cause of all the rages and crimes out their is depression. Try to have a background checked of criminals, you will discover that most of them suffer depression due to sudden major loss or any other bad situation that for them seems without hope.

Workaholism. Some people engrossed themselves to work when their body can no longer carry them. This thing is called "workaholism." This thing commonly cause stress in our society. Often men hide their depression through working hard. Without knowing, it damages the serotonin neurotransmitter system in the brain that also causes depression.

Avoidance of Intimacy. A typically depressed male will avoid intimacy especially with those close family, friends, and even with his own wife. He becomes cold and insensitive to others. His alienation will lead him to blame others as well.

Sexual Compulsions. Many men if not all who are so obsessed of sex beyond normal are often depressed, except those who are seriously depressed. Sex gives them pleasurable moments and at least help them forget their depression. Often sex is sought as a self-medication for their low mood.


Causes of Depression

There are several causes of depression. One is so called "reactive depression" which is in a form of grief. Genetic factors may also contribute depression but probably, this is the easiest to treat because of the presence of some medications available to counteract the effects of the gene on the brain's neurotransmitters. Some maybe due to hormonal or thyroid problems. This problems are common to women when their estrogen level collapse. Here too, antidepressants may be of great help.


How Stress Causes Depression

"Glococortinoids" and "cortisol" are stress hormones that targets the two areas of the brain, the synapses and the hippocampus. The synapse reduces the number of neurotransmitter receptors and the hippocampus disturbs the brains capacity to renew it's cells.

But the condition is reversible because it lowers the stress. Along with psychotherapy and antidepressants, you can cope with genetic forms of depression. Above all, seek Spiritual Guidance for faster recovery...


How to Live with a Depressed Man

Living with a depressed man is not easy. Wives, daughters, mothers, who are living with a depressed man need our support. Most often, depressed men would not accept that they have emotional problem of depression and they hated to seek professional help. Even with successful therapy, living with them seems unbearable.

A man living with a depressed wife is easier than a wife living with a depressed husband. Oftentimes, wives are required to leave their jobs to take care of their husband. In the process, they become targets of anger and frustration.

How can you effectively live your life with a depressed partner? You must learn to master the art of correct communication, love, and acceptance. It is easier said than done. You need God's grace and divine intervention.

With God's help, unconditional love will do wonders beyond we could imagine. Love begot love. Even though the depressed man might not show any appreciation at present, but the day will come that you will look back with satisfaction over the way you help your depressed husband. This word is for you, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness", 2 Corinthians 12:9.

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10 Healthy Foods

Food serves as our body's fuel that gives us energy to do work. Choosing healthy food is necessary in keeping away from many diseases.

Following are ten healthy kinds of foods that play an important role in maintaining good health.


Whole Grains

Whole grains is one of the healthiest food because of it's low fat content that makes you eat less because eating of it makes you feel satisfied. It lowers the risk of cancer, type2 diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

Be sure to choose bread that has whole wheat flour, whole wheat cereal or whole grains on the label. Choose breads with at least three to five grams of fiber per serving or if possible eight or more...


Nuts

Nuts are full of nutrients. It may contain iron, calcium, zinc, copper, vitamin E, riboflavin, and are low in saturated fat and omega3 fatty acids. Studies shows that they may even help reduce low density lipoprotein or LDL cholesterol which sometimes called the bad cholesterol. Nuts may even reduce your risk of coronary artery disease. It is recommended that you have to eat one ounce of nuts per serving to take the place of a protein found in one ounce of meat.


Green Tea

Green tea is a major source of phytochemicals known as flavonoids, that makes lower the risk of some diseases. Flavonoids may inhibit the enzyme activity for some cancer growth.


Tomatoes

What makes tomato healthy is that it contains number of nutrients, including B complex and vitamins C, iron and potassium.It may even contain antioxidant lycopene that may lower the risk of heart attack, prostrate cancer and other types of it.


Fish

Fatty fish as salmon and tuna are recommended because of it's omega-3 fatty acid content which may protect against heart disease through improving high density lipoprotein or HDL cholesterol and lowering triglyceride levels and may lower the tendency of blood clotting or of developing irregular heartbeat. Eating two to three ounce cooked servings of fish a week is recommended.


Soy

Including soy regularly in your diet reduces the risk of cardiovascular disease. Isoflavones in soy protein proved to inhibit sex hormones that gives protection from some cancers such as prostrate and breast cancers. It is advised that if you have a history of these cancers, seek help from your physician about your soy intake..


Sterols or Plant Stanols

Sterols or plant stanols are natural substances that blocks the cholesterol absorption. LDL is reduce to 14 percent. Foods rich in these substances are orange juice, yogurt products,and margarine-like spread such as Benecol and Take Control.


Fat-free Dairy

Dairy products are abundant source of calcium and vitamin D that helps prevent osteoporosis, high blood pressure, stroke, colon cancer, and obesity. Calcium are rich in protein, vitamin B, and minerals like selenium, phosphorus, and magnesium. Choose only dairy products that are fat-free. Some of the common examples of fat-free dairy products are skim milk, fat-free cottage cheese, and fat-free yogurt.


Berries

The antioxidants that are found in berries lower cancer and cardiovascular disease risk. Blueberries contains the highest amount of antioxidants, but blackberries, raspberries, and strawberries aren't far behind. Berries are also good source of dietary fiber that aids blood circulation. If you are concern about your weight, you must seldom eat dried fruits since they are concentrated source of calories.


Broccoli and Cauliflower

Both broccoli and cauliflower contains high vitamin C and vitamin A. They have natural substances called phytochemicals that help reduce colorectal cancer and other types of cancer. They are also rich in fiber, low in fat and clories, and zero cholesterol content.


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Sexually Transmitted Diseases

STD or Sexually Transmitted Disease also called venereal diseases are transmitted by sexual contact with an infected person. People who have multiple sex partners are more likely to have STD.

Statistic shows that in every 4 teenager, one is infected of STD. We are living in an STD health crisis and it is rapidly increasing.

A research from the University of Texas showed that condom cannot fully protect from STD. It's effectiveness is only 70%. Oral contraceptive also increases the risk of STD since it decreases the level of nutrients absorption by the body due to estrogen imbalanced.

Smokers are three times to have STD than non smokers because the later are more conscious about their health and often avoid habits that can ruin their body such as having sex outside of marriage.

Here are the most common STD or Sexually Transmitted Diseases and their symptoms.

HIV(AIDS) - lung infection, night sweats, unexplained weight loss, headache, fatigue, swollen lymph glands, vaginal yeast, thrush, diarrhea

Gonorrhea - Women: itching and pain in vagina, inflammation of the pelvic area, rectal discharge, abnormal uterine bleeding, frequent and painful urination, cloudy vaginal discharge
Men: Yellowish pus-filled urethral discharge.

Syphilis - sore in the mouth, genitals and anus; rashes, sore throat, fever

Genital Warts - soft growth like warts either in the vagina, anus, groin, penis or scrotum

Genital Herpes - itchy and burning in the genital area, discomfort during urination watery vaginal or urethral discharge, fluid-filled eruptions on genital

Pelvic Inflammatory Disease - pus-filled genital discharge, fever and abdominal pain

Chlamydia - Women: painful urination, pain during sexual intercourse, white vaginal discharge
Men: clear watery genital discharge

Candidiasis - painful urination, thick genital discharge, itchiness in genital areas

Trichomoniasis - Women: foamy, yellowish and smelly discharge, vaginal itchiness and pain
Men: clear urethral discharge

The best therapy against STD is prevention. Don't engage in multiple sex intercourse. Sex is intended only for married couples by God and sex outside marriage increases the risk of acquiring STD.

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Ways To Say "I Love You"

Not all are the same. There are three ways how people perceive things. Some people are visual and are influence most by sight. Others are auditory and motivated by what they hear. You will also find people who are influenced most by what they feel and they are categorized as kinesthetic. It's true that all people operates in all types but it is evident that one mode is dominant.

Now talking about love, different people expresses their love based on their personalities and also desire to receive love in different ways as well.

The visual man loves to give his wife beautiful clothes. He wants to see his wife beautiful. A visual woman always want to see his husband and arranges her home to look clean and nice. An auditory woman loves to hear sweet words from her husband. When making love, an auditory man set a romantic music for background. Holding the hands of his wife while walking is the game of a kinesthetic man while a kinesthetic woman needs to be hug and touch continually by her man. Different people wants to be cherished differently.

King Solomon and his Shunamite wife demonstrated these three modes of perception. "Let me see your face...for..your face is lovely." Expressing in auditory way Solomon appeals, "Let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet" (Song of Solomon 2:14, New King James Version).

His Shunamite bride is kinesthetic so she enjoys her husband caress. "His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me" (Song of Solomon 2:6).

If your wife or girlfriend is different from you and you expect her to behave like you do, you will have troubles continually. Say for example, a visual wife and a kinesthetic husband. Returning from home very tired, the husband grabs his wife and kiss him but his wife is not responsive and this makes him irritated. His wife is contented of just seeing his husband.

The husband throws down his coat, kick off his shoes and make himself comfortable in the sofa. His wife make efforts to clean and arrange their home and seeing her husband unmindful of his housekeeping makes her frantic. They have another bad encounter.

In bed, the husband hug his wife. Sex or no sex, he just want to embrace her. The wife just contented of his presence, move to the other side of the bed. The third war begins!

What is the solution to such problem of two people in love with each other but are different from the other that are always in conflict?

First, identify your partner. Is she visual, auditory, kinesthelic? How can we know that? By listening to how they talk. A visual people will say, "I see it." "I hear you," auditory person tend to say. "I feel we should do that," Kinesthetic people often say. More importantly, action is better that words. Observing how your partner reacts and behave is the key to identification.

Second, accept your mate difference. The natural response is to reject that difference and try to change their partner. Often, failure is the result to such attempts. Don't forget to respect individuality because it is a gift from God (Psalm 139:16). Don't use force but instead work with the flow.

God reveals His love in different ways to different people. When healing the crippled from birth, Peter said, "Look at us!" (Acts 3:4) - visual. Jesus said to a man with a withered hand, "Stretch out your hand" ( Matthew 12:13), there was love in His voice - auditory. The blind man was healed by Jesus touch (John 9:6) - kinesthetic. If God ministered in different ways, we must do likewise.

Third, live an agape life. The highest form of love is agape in Greek. This love is a self-sacrificing love, a perfect love demonstrated by God toward us.

Love your spouse more than yourself. Our relationship in the home would be better if we apply this agape principle of love. "We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor...for even Christ did not please Himself." (Romans 15:1-3)

In the light of agape, the kinesthetic husband will keep his shoes in proper place sometimes and the wife must accept his husband cuddling sometimes. The two self becomes one!



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